Sunday, August 07, 2005
There's 3 types of friends, I think. If you're in trouble or pain,
Type 1: would turn a blind eye and suddenly be too wrapped up in school or work. Though usually they ARE and if that's more important, then that's ok (I'm not by any means putting these people down here, everybody has different values and priorities and I can't say that I haven't been this type of person before).
Type 2: would hear you out but then get scared. What? You're depressed? Oh my gawd... I think she's going phycho. Let's drift from him and warn our other friends about her so we have something to bitch about. That's to some extent understandable too I guess. I've heard stories about some really scary depressed people who cling on to you and my friends have drifted from them, a move which I myself agreed to - though I think if it was a good friend, I would never do that. The type I'd drift from are the type who meet you for 2 seconds and then tell you their entire life story then call you every hour to update you on new life dramas and expect you to do something about it. Now THOSE people are scary! I hope I will never turn into one of those
But yeah I guess it just sucks when you let yourself out to people you think are genuine to you and after they hear you out they suddenly become a type 2 friend. Then there's ppl who you always thought were type 1 or type 2 friends but they're actually type 3 and it makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
Type 3s: would hear you out, try to understand your point of view even though they don't really, give you advice and let you vent without complaining. They'd ask you how you're feeling for the next few days instead of pretending nothing happened coz they don't want to ask or are too scared to ask. They're really there for you whenever you need them. These type of friends are hard to come by and it's hard to tell which ones they are in a room full of friends who all appear to care and want to hug you.
so i wanna say
thank u to all my type three friends,
harjinder - who always listens and always says the same things cus she dozen know what to say =)
elaine - who always cracks me up and makes me see how i'm over analysing things but sometimes she makes me over analyse things. ;P
bern - for making me see how truly silly i can be. =D
raja - who pretty much is like harjinder. he listens and trys to say sth sweet. *but i think that cus he thinks i could be suicidal or is just burst out in tears or just hit him or sth. haha*
mark - a definate type 3. haha. the one i called when i panicked and the one who came to help tho he thought i was kidding and was really busy =)
alfred - the president who spoke to both me and harj and made us work things out and is still arnd for me to send silly smses to.
may &
kavee - the two people who are so crazy, they make me crazy too.
and my all time fav,
keshes - the one i can talk to about anything and can get constructive critcism from.
now, i'm curious to know what kinda freind i am, so, hurry up and have life dramas so I can see if I'm really such a great friend or I'm just another common type 1/2 who tries to disguise myself as a type 3.
once loved.
12:18 AM
